Monika Tripathi. Adulting is probably the most confusing phase there ever is. It is that middle ground where you know that you’re sinking but you just don’t know with what pace. It is that mirror where you’re done looking beyond the shining reflection and are caught up with the unpolished base. While the canvas looks like a serene picture from the front, the backdrop of it seems like a tattered piece in shades of gray. Are you beating yourself day in and day out? When the rainbows come up and the sun goes down? When everything falls in place and suddenly there’s no ground? When life’s moving fine but there’s yet a frown. It’s then when you need to be your own sanity and scream out loud, that it is OKAY! If you think you are the only one missing the plane, it’s not true. If you think you’re the only one who cannot take hold of relationships, it’s not true and if you think that life’s only being unfair to you; then breathe love, it’s not true.
Do you remember your carefree self? How long ago was it? When was the last time you actually ‘LIVED’? When was the last time you soaked in the sun and smiled at the sky? When was the last time you giggled from your heart? When was the last time you beamed when you were hit with that fresh Earthy smell? We don’t even remember, because we’ve enveloped ourselves with so much of self-doubt that we don’t even believe within, that we deserve all the happiness that is lying right in front of us. We are ‘obsessed’ with the idea of having a ‘picture perfect life’, perfect job, perfect relationships, perfect friendships. We are scared of putting out all our cards on the table with the idea of being judged. We are scared of accepting our insecurities because in our head a ‘strong’ person has none; but who defines strength? Why is the idea of “everybody” more important to us then your own living soul? Why is it that when a long relationship fails, you trick yourself into believing that it can still go on? Why is it that when your really close friend rips you apart, you still hold on because you thought it was true? Why is it that even when you’re unhappy at work you’d still struggle to keep going because you cannot be less in front of your peers? That my friend, is the real problem; the problem of you not willing to let go and the most basic solution to it is acknowledging it to the core.
Listed below are 5 slightly uncomfortable times when life throws us a wrecking ball and in our head we go off balance but in reality, it’s just an off situation.
Let go off that toxic, non-existent relationship
“Everyone walks in your life with a purpose, once that purpose is over, they silently fade away”. Every person in our lives walks in with a purpose, it is either to make us feel alive, make us a better person or teach us a lesson and just when it is done, they walk out and are remembered as a blur memory.
We’re from the lot whose always grown up on fairytales, hence letting go off relationships is like taking a part of you away. Be it a 6 month or 6 years old relationship; if it doesn’t make you happy, if it is just there for the sake of it and if you’re partner is literally non-existent, then take a deep breath and let it go. It’ll pinch and break you at first but it’ll only save you from running into a tsunami of your own making. Losing someone does not end the World. It never has. It only teaches you that nothing is permanent and the only way to save yourself is to understand and follow the process of letting go.
Only you can define what you believe in
Social media has literally raided each of our lives. It’s that one medium where all of us are constantly comparing our lives with that of others. The stalking skills that we boast about somewhere leads to a major self-doubt creating insecurities. You suddenly start comparing yourself, your lifestyle, your weight, the way you look with someone you barely even know. All of this, post after post creates a negative impact in your thinking leading to a major “I am not